What is the Difference Between a Groove and a Rut?

There is a fine line between a groove and a rut.  So, what’s the difference?

A groove is smooth, intentional and perceived as positive because we are focusing on something important to us. We are finding our groove by functioning smoothly and efficiently.

Being in a groove signifies that everything is going well. You are living your best life and you know where you are going and how to get there.

A rut has a more negative connotation – it is deeper, rougher and it denotes that things are happening to us – we are not in control. We are just going about routine tasks and doing things out of habit. We can be stuck in a rut with our job, our marriage, any part of our lives. When we say we’re in a rut, rarely do we have to explain to others what we mean. They know – they may be in their own rut, and clearly understand the feeling.

How do we get out of a rut? Refocus on what we are doing, change something significant, do something different. Any sort of change can be a start.

The first step is to take a look at all aspects of our lives and determine if they represent a groove or a rut.If it’s a rut, then try to do something about it.

Focus on what you can control

• Identify the problem and reflect on the situation
  • Do you have all the facts?
• Is it something you are able to change

Create an action plan with specific steps to improve your situation

• Set small, achievable goals and track progress (S.M.A.R.T.)

Engage in new activities and change your routine to create new experiences

• Learn something new to broaden your horizons and stimulate your mind – read, listen to podcasts, do online courses
• Join groups and clubs – socialize and mix with people with similar interests
• Volunteer – helping others gives you a sense of purpose and takes your mind off of your problems

Take care of your physical health

• Exercise to increase your energy and boost your mood
• Maintain a healthy diet
• Get adequate good quality sleep

Focus on Self

• Maintain a journal to record your thoughts and gain clarity
• Keep a gratitude journal to write down what you are grateful for every day
• Meditate to reduce stress and increase awareness
• Deep breathing exercises to reduce anxiety
• Work with a career coach to gain insight and direction
• Seek help from a mental health professional if needed

Take a Break

• Take time off or take a break from your surroundings
• Spend time outdoors – enjoy nature, go for a walk to relax and clear your mind and gain a new perspective
• Travel if you can – either locally or visit another country
  • The change of scenery, culture and environment will be refreshing, broaden your horizons and raise your spirits

A good strategy to get out of a rut is a combination of these activities as you work to create a positive change in your life.

Be patient, and be positive.